What Happens If I Choose Adoption?
Adoption is an option if neither parent feels he or she will be able to meet the child’s needs emotionally, physically, financially, or socially. By choosing adoption you can ensure that the child’s future needs will be met. You can call and speak with one of our adoption counselors and get a step by step process to customize your adoption plan.
If you desire, you can meet the prospective adoptive family, receive pictures and letters after placement as well as have at least one visit a year with the family and child. It is important that you stay open and honest about your emotions and your situation. We can offer you counseling services both before and after the baby is born. We understand that this is a difficult decision and we want to help you work through your emotions as well.
Want to Learn More?
1. What is Open Adoption?
At Adoptions From The Heart, we allow women the chance to decide if they would like to choose the adoptive family for the baby and if they would like to have on going contact with the baby and the adoptive family after the baby is born. Some women would like to see pictures of the baby and get letters from the adoptive family. Other women would like the chance to visit with the adoptive family and the baby. While other women would like to select the adoptive family but are not comfortable with on going contact. These choices are up to you. The counselors at Adoptions From The Heart can help you to decide what is best for you.
2. I’m not sure where to start. What do I do first?
You’ve already started reading about adoption on the Internet. That’s a great first start. It’s important for you to learn about your options so that you can make the best possible decisions for you and your baby. A counselor at Adoptions From The Heart can provide you with support, counseling and information. If you decide that adoption is the best plan for you and your baby, we can help you through each step of the process.
3. I don’t have any medical insurance. How will I pay my medical bills?
A counselor at Adoptions From The Heart can assist you in getting the medical coverage that you are entitled to. If you don’t qualify for medical insurance and you decide that adoption is the best choice for you and your baby, the medical bills for your pregnancy and your delivery can be covered by the adoptive family.
4. Will I get to choose the Adoptive Family?
At Adoptions From The Heart, we believe that you should be able to select the adoptive family for their baby. You can see profiles of all the perspective adoptive families that match your background. These families have already been approved as adoptive parents by Adoptions From The Heart. We do not pre-select families or limit the number of family profiles that you can view. The counselors at Adoptions From The Heart want to be sure that you have all the options in your situation so that you can make the best decision possible. Also, it’s important to know that you do not have to select the adoptive family if you would prefer not to. Your counselor will discuss with you any preferences that you have about the type of adoptive family the baby should be placed in and the counselor will then select a family based upon your requests.
5. Will my baby go into foster care?
No. Many women feel strongly about foster care and their baby having to go to a home other than the one that they have chosen. At Adoptions From The Heart, we believe that babies should be placed directly with the adoptive parents that you have selected.
6. Do I have to pick the family?
You aren’t required to select a family for the baby. Some woman ask their social worker to select a family based on what they feel is important in a family. For instance, some women would like a family with a stay at home parents, others feel that religious background of the family is important to them, while other women may want the adoptive family to share some of their hobbies and interests.
7. Can I stay in touch?
Absolutely! As you are thinking about the kind of adoption that you would like to have, you should consider what kind of contact you would like to have with the adoptive family after the baby is placed with them. There are many options! You can exchange letters and photos, emails or even visit. A counselor from AFTH can help you to find a family that looks forward to the continued contact that you are most comfortable with.
8. What if I don’t want to meet the adoptive family?
That’s OK. You can decide if they are comfortable meeting the adoptive family or not. For some women and men, meeting seems scary at first. That’s why is so important to know that your AFTH counselor will help you to decide what makes the most sense for you.
9. Will I be able to see my baby in the hospital? Will my family, friends and the birthfather be able to see my baby?
Yes, you can spend as much or as little time as you would like with the baby. You will determine who else sees the baby. Your counselor will help you make the arrangements.
10. What if I change my mind?
No binding decision can be made until after your baby is born. Each state has different laws regarding the time frame you have to change your mind once you sign papers terminating your parental rights. We have “know your rights” flyers for every state we are licensed that will help you understand your legal rights regarding the adoption process.
11. What do I have to do?
There are very few pieces that you must do in adoption. We require women to fill in what they know about their medical background for the baby. And, if you decide that adoption is the right plan for you there is paperwork that must be completed. But everything else in the adoption plan is flexible – you can decide if you would like to select the family, if you would like to meet them before the baby is born, if you want to keep in touch after the baby is placed, and so many other things. That’s why it’s important to connect with one of our counselors. She will help you through each decision and be there to support you.
12. What do I do next?
Call us toll free 24/7 at 1-888-608-8373 or text us at 610-787-2453 to make an appointment with a counselor. If transportation is a problem, we’ll come to you. We’ll be discreet when returning your call.
Testimonials From Women We Have Helped
“Obviously this situation wasn’t one I saw myself being in when I was only 19 years old, but, wishful thinking aside, I was, and it will be something I remember forever. I called various adoption agencies and Adoptions From The Heart seemed a lot more friendly and open and more willing to talk to me even if I hadn’t pledged my loyalty to their services. It helped a lot to know that I didn’t have to take care of everything by myself. I appreciate all the help and guidance you’ve given me and I wish that everyone’s adoption experience could be as comforting as mine was (thanks to you and your staff). The work you do and the effort you put in is fantastic and really admirable. Thank you again for everything.” – Samantha
“I can’t even begin to thank you for everything you have done for me. I could never have done anything without you. So, from the bottom of my heart, thank you.” – Theriese (letter to an AFTH social worker)
“Thank you so much for everything. You guys are a true blessing to me and my daughter.” – Michelle (Birth mother aided by the donation fund)
What To Expect: Step By Step Process
The adoption process is unique to your needs but here is an example of the basic step by step process of an adoption plan:
1) Gather Information About Adoption
- Contact AFTH to speak with a pregnancy counselor, ask any questions and discuss your options and find out whether adoption may be the right option for you and your baby.
2) Meet With Your Counselor To Make Your Adoption Plan
- Assistance in obtaining a doctor, medical assistance, welfare, transportation to appointments, housing, etc.
- Financial assistance may be available depending on your circumstances.
- Fill out paperwork which will help your counselor get to know you better.
3) Select A Family (if you choose)
- Begin reviewing prospective adoptive parent profiles and Youtube video’s for the type of family you would like to choose for your baby.
- Get to know the family you choose by meeting them with your counselor a few times before your baby is born.
4) At The Hospital
- Discuss plans for the hospital: time with the baby, prospective adoptive parents’ role at the hospital, who you want in the delivery room etc.
- Labor and delivery of your baby. Your counselor will meet you at the hospital for support.
- Discharge from hospital, baby will be discharged with family you chose.
5) Legal Process
- Meet with your counselor to fill out the legal paperwork to complete your adoption plan.
6) Ongoing Support
- If you choose an open adoption, receive photos and letter or email updates and possible visits.
- Adoption is a life-long journey, your adoption counselor is here for you. Support groups are also available.
Want to Learn More?
1. Contact Us
We know you have questions. Our experienced social workers are standing by to listen to you and inform you about your options. Call, text, submit a form or chat with us 24/7.
2. Talk to a counselor
Our experienced counselors will listen to your concerns, answer your questions, and advise you of your options. We will support you all the way through your decision. Once you have made a decision as to what you want to do with your pregnancy, we will give you assistance with your next step.
3. Stay Supported
Support is key. We know from the thousands of people we have helped that no matter which option you choose, you always need support.
If you choose to adoption for your baby
Here are the next steps >>
Pick an adopting family
We have a database of families that have created profiles to show their values, and why they are seeking to adopt a child. You can watch videos, read their bios and decide which family you are most comfortable with and one that fits your goals. We can help you through this process.
Complete your adoption plan
Once you have selected a family, we will help you with the details of the adoption, and how involved you would like to be. We pass no judgment and we are here to support you and achieve your goals.
AFTH Can Help
There is no easy choice. There is no wrong choice. An unplanned pregnancy can be one of life’s most difficult experiences.
AFTH gives you the option to select prospective adoptive parents from our approved families through letters, photos and videos. You can meet them and stay in touch with your child as he/she is growing up. You can join a support group with other women who are considering adoption and/or have already placed their children for adoption. Choose either a totally open, semi-open adoption or a traditional (closed) adoption.
The adoption options offered by Adoptions From The Heart can be molded to fit your desires and needs exactly. Receive letters and pictures each year or visit your child after the adoption is finalized. Your child will be placed directly with prospective adoptive parents, not in foster care. Our experienced, caring and skilled counselors provide individual and family counseling to help you sort out your feelings and make informed choices.