An unplanned pregnancy is something that you thought you would never go through, but here you are face to face with it. It’s going to be a difficult road no matter which option you decide on, whether that be adoption, parenting, or abortion. What you really need now is support from your friends and family. It may be difficult but we hope these tips can help you get started.
Should I Tell Them?
Yes. Keeping a secret like an unplanned pregnancy can be harmful to your emotional health and can interfere with your ability to take care of yours and the baby’s health.
When Should I Tell Them?
There are a lot of things to think about when you’re planning to tell someone this news. Is there somewhere that is comfortable for the both of you? Would you rather tell them in a letter? Do you want to tell everyone at the same time or individually? Do you want someone there for support when you tell them?
How Do I Even Start This Conversation?
The easiest conversation starter we can give you is something along the lines of “I have something difficult to tell you, I’m pregnant,” “I need to talk to you but I’m afraid you will be upset with me,” “I really need your support so please try to understand,” or “I took a pregnancy test and it was positive.”
What If They’re Mad?
The first thing to understand is that everyone processes news differently. Some people will need time to process what you just told them. They could lash out and be angry so leaving them to process by themselves could help.
What If They Don’t Like What Option I Choose?
This is most likely going to happen no matter which option you choose. You need to do what is best for yourself and the baby. Writing down a list of reasons you have chosen the path you picked and explaining it to your loved ones with logical reasons may help them understand where you are coming from. Just remember that you are going to be the one dealing with the emotional side effects of whichever option you choose, so make sure it is your decision and not someone else’s.
Telling your loved ones that you are experiencing an unplanned pregnancy may be one of the most difficult things you will ever have to tell them. Just remember that this is your decision. If you need help discussing your options you can call AFTH toll free at 1-800-355-5500 and discuss them with a licensed and experienced social worker.