It is well known that adoption can be an intense and even life-changing process for birth mothers. Much of the process seems to center around the birth mother by making sure she is supported and given the best possible treatment while choosing a family for her baby. Because of this, it is sometimes easy to forget the presence of birth fathers and how important they are in the adoption process. Birth fathers are also deserving of counseling and support services.
The absence of a birth father can have many negative effects on children growing up. They may develop emotional issues because of this, such as feelings of abandonment. It also can be harmful to a child’s health if they are not aware of one of their parents’ medical histories. A lack of participation may also be harmful to the birth mother, as she may feel alone or unsupported.
There are many possible reasons why a birth father may not initially choose to participate in the adoption process. For instance, a birth father may be worried about being seen as a “deadbeat” father or being judged by others. Many birth fathers are also not familiar with their rights as parents. While each case is unique and rights do vary by state, birth fathers typically have the same rights as birth mothers after choosing open adoption.
Birth fathers are welcome to make decisions alongside the birth mother, such as choosing the family that is right for their baby. They can accompany the birth mother when she gives birth. Birth fathers can also receive updates and pictures of their children as they grow. They can even coordinate visits with their children and their adoptive parents. Even if the birth mother does not wish to make an adoption plan or keep up to date with her child, birth fathers are more than welcome to do so.
Some birth fathers may not be sure if they are the legitimate father of their child. They may also fear they do not have anything to prove their paternity. Birth fathers do have the right to a paternity test, which could help ease some of these worries. Others may not be on good terms with the birth mother. Despite this being a reality for some, Adoptions from the Heart will accommodate both parents individually.
Birth fathers are also often left out of adoption narratives. Many view adoption as a process that takes place between a birth mother and the parents adopting her child. In many cases, the birth father is forgotten entirely. Often, this can be attributed to various stereotypes or untrue sentiments. Society often views women as the parent that is responsible for looking after children, leaving the father out of these types of decisions and spaces. Some people also believe that since the father did not carry and give birth to the child, he will not be attached to the baby. While each case of adoption is unique, it is highly unlikely any birth father believes these sentiments. It essential to consider the thoughts and wishes of birth fathers in order to combat these stereotypes.
Whether birth fathers feel uncertain about their situation, unaware of their rights or unsupported by those around them, Adoptions from the Heart can provide all of these services. Sitting down with a staff member can help clear up any myths or misconceptions he may have. It is possible that having these conversations may change a birth father’s view on adoption entirely. Birth fathers are encouraged to get involved and informed about the adoption process for the betterment of both them and their child.
