Adoption is a beautiful and life-changing journey for both parents and children involved. Last week, we heard from two adoptees, Christian and Jackie. Their stories shed light on the less-discussed aspects of adoption- the struggles that come with it. While these challenges may not always be in the spotlight, it’s crucial for potential adoptive parents to prepare for what may come.
- Educate Yourself: Learn as much as you can about adoption and the potential challenges adoptees face.
- Take as many classes about adoption as you can.
- Use resources and outside readings shared by Adoptions From The Heart during class.
- Talk to adoption professionals, like your social worker.
- Open and Honest Communication: Create an environment where your child feels comfortable discussing adoption and their feelings. Prepare to answer questions as they arise.
- Listen to adoptees! Read articles, listen to podcasts, and watch videos from the adoptee’s POV.
- Identity and Self-Esteem: Share as many details as possible about your child’s biological family. Surround your child with other adoptees to create supportive relationships.
- Cultural Awareness: If your child is from a different cultural background try to learn about and respect their heritage. Celebrate their cultural identity and provide resources for them to explore their cultural roots.
- Acknowledging Grief and Loss: Many adoptees experience a sense of loss or grief related to their birth family, even in infant placements. Acknowledge their grief and help them healthily process their emotions.
- Advocacy and Support: Be an advocate for your child in school, healthcare, and other settings. Support them in addressing discrimination or biases they may face due to their adoption and give them tools to be able to stand up for themselves.
- Mental Health and Counseling: Pay attention to your child’s mental and emotional well-being. Consider an adoption-competent therapist for adoption-related struggles.
- Support Networks: Connect with other adoptive parents or support groups.
- Adoptions From The Heart offers many: Look at the calendar or talk to your social worker to see what is coming up!
- Preparation for Adolescence: Adolescent years can be particularly challenging for adoptees as they explore their identity and independence. Be prepared for potential issues related to identity, rebellion, and self-discovery.
By preparing yourself for the challenges and celebrating the beauty of adoption, you can provide your child with a stable and loving environment to thrive and grow. Adoption is a journey that requires love, support, and understanding throughout your child’s life.
